Kant say… *hehe*

Hey, I could’ve said: “Find your Nietzsche…”

*snicker* (Can’t say, find your niche, sorry, couldn’t resist…) *hehe* Umm… if I lost you in what a good friend called my ‘egghead-land’, here’s a link.  It is by far, not the complete story, but, well, google (and Gutenberg.org) is your friend.

As I continue tackling research papers and assignments, I am taking this opportunity to post those blogs you may have missed in The Before Times.

The following is a repost from last year, before I had very many readers/followers.

It’s sort of a beginning conversation on the post “Gender, another sort-of-true story“. Gender-related topics are an ongoing issue, and debate, in my household as I raise 2 daughters to adulthood. (In a society hell-bent on contradicting itself into a folding in of the physical universe… think black, semantical whirlpool, hole.)

So, even on the days I’m absolutely sick of talking about it – I HAVE TO… It’s my parental duty.

A lot of views and assumptions are made, and marketed as ‘modern’ (in the current social-Darwinism world, that means ‘evolved’ *ahem*)… thus, in my humble opinion, they are more-than-often misused and misconstrued, for social and/or political gain. Sometimes for good, sometimes for evil. Always for money… power… or prestige.

My advice? Regardless of the ‘modern view’ being marketed at any given time?

Don’t drink the proverbial Kool-Aid. Think for yourself… and ALWAYS put it in historical (and thus socio-political) context before reaching for the, well, we’ll call it ‘the decision shelf’ – we are a nation and society of individuals, after all?

Beyond all the gooey, icky, opinion-stuff…

Enjoy your weekend! I don’t know if I have a Saturday post yet, completely up to whim and wit alone… but I’m fairly certain there will be a Sunday Dinner.

Cheers! 🙂


We Don’t Accept Segregation By Race Or Religion. So Why Is It OK With Gender?

The article compares (finally) gender segregation to that of racial and ethnic segregation. And the author does a wonderful job of explaining what most would text “WTF” regarding our continued practice of gender discrimination.

I’m sorry, but… duh.

Um… girls, now women, my age have been wondering that FOR YEARS. Ever since Title IX began, then President Reagan revoked it, then it began again… but remained the dumbed down Jim Crowe Law that it is with its’ “Equal but Separate” allowances. Since the Equal Rights Amendment FINALLY passed the House and Senate and then failed ratification from the States. (I can post my Senior Thesis if you want to know more… but I will have to dig it out of the closet first.)

The author posited a well, “What do you think?”

I thought, “Well, A LOT. As a woman, and a mother of two daughters… I am aware of it every day.”

I have a huge chip on my shoulder regarding women’s accepted inequality in society. I have endeavored NOT to pass that chip on to my daughters. Instead I have tried to focus more on providing them opportunities, clothing styles, and even allowed ‘reckless’ behavior (for a girl) when they showed interest. “Hey! I can climb this!” “Hey! I can jump this!” In fact, one of my older daughter’s famous last words before the first aid kit came out was “Look Mommy! Weeee!”

By age 12, both have and will have a series of scars, all with very interesting stories behind them.

So, every time my daughters come home and say, “The boys wouldn’t let me play baseball with them at recess…” and “the girls won’t do anything but hang out and gossip at recess…” I thought about it.

I have to explain to them that no it isn’t right. And yes, some of those girls probably do want to play ball… And no, I don’t agree with it. But I put the onus on them. When my older daughter complained that boys and girls can’t play tennis with one another, I said, “Talk to your coach about it.” “Write a letter to the school board.” I prodded her to do something. Because if I storm in, battle standard in hand… I would be over-stepping my bounds.

When I was a kid, growing up in the 80’s, I pestered the gym teacher until they let us play baseball with the boys. (It was just me and one other girl, but we played… there was a line drive that took out one of the basemen involved, oh, and one home run…). If I’d had a parent, a grown up, saying “Write the School Board”… Hell yes, I would’ve done it.

Sports equality aside… the real questions that need to be asked aren’t regarding whether it is ‘okay’ or ‘justified’, or even if men and women, males and females, are just ‘different people’.

We need to question what “Gender” is… because I will tell you… I have a high school student now and, boy-oh-boy, are those kids interested in Gender. Well, that and sexual identity, but we’ll discuss that one later.

There are no longer female and male genders. There are new and interesting amalgamations thereof: Trans-, Cross-Gender, and even Gender-Neutral and -Fluid. There’s a list somewhere on the internet… Ah hah here it is:

See http://www.impactprogram.org for more information if you are interested.

So. It would seem that instead of achieving Gender Equality, we have opted for Gender-What-the-Hell-Who-Cares-Let-them-go-to-the-same-bathroom-already.

Is it possible that making gender more complicated, will in fact, limit the stigma of just being one or the other?

Still, this foray into Divide-and-Classify does little to quell my concerns, or to answer the question… “What is Gender?”

For me… that is a question only everyone can answer. Because evidently we all decided at some point that it existed.

Here are some questions to ponder regarding how we separate the genders:

  • Are men capable of learning to nurture children?
  • Are women capable of learning to fight?
  • Do boys and girls remain similar heights and weights until puberty? Are there variations beyond that?
  • Can men clean a house? Or do laundry?
  • Are women capable of animosity, egotism, and jealousy?
  • Are men capable of kindness and gentleness?

If you say No, to any of those… you will find exceptions everywhere.

If you try to generalize and say most don’t… then that begs the question as to why. Because, the exception never proves the rule. In fact, per Sherlock Holmes, it disproves it.

Thus, we need to question it and look at the facts as they are presented. Not conjecture. Not physiological differences that do nothing but change how someone achieves physical strength and stamina. And certainly not traits so imbedded and interwoven into our socio-cultural web that we seem to believe they are part of us.